We need to stop arguing with them because, in the end, they aren't invested like we are. They aren't paying attention to these stories out of fear for their lives and the lives of their children and spouses, they are only tuned in out of black and brown contempt. This shit is trivial to them. It's all a pissing contest to see who can be the most smug and condescending - and ultimately dismissive. When we debate these issues, we do so passionately - albeit, not always very articulate and often without a whole lot of depth to our arguments - but we always come from a place of genuine frustration, outrage and fear. When most white people debate the very same issues from an opposing stance, they do so from a place of perpetual obtuseness and indifference and their arguments always pretty much boil down to "If it isn't my experience it couldn't possibly be yours."
I'll start with a quick caveat: I'm going to generalize. I'm going to generalize men, I'm going to generalize women and I'm bound to be pretty heteronormative as I can only speak from a perspective based on my own black, cis, heterosexual, male experiences and observations. So let's all just go ahead and institute the … Continue reading 5 Ways Men Are Failed By Their Own Masculinity: One Man’s Testimony
Anti blackness can be a subtle little bitch. Here's an example... So I'm in kind of in a funk right now. I ain't depressed or emotionally scarred for life or no shit like that, recent events in my life have just put me in a temporary fucked up place... I'm a little sad, a little … Continue reading Anti Blackness: A Subtle Little Bitch
I guess it was about a year ago I was put on to the fact that referring to women as "females" was actually regarded by many persons of the female persuasion (HA!!..*ahem*... sorry) as an issue that needed addressing. Now, I like to consider myself a socially aware, privilege recognizing, supremacy dismantling, fighter for the … Continue reading Black Men And Our Struggle… With Our Own Privilege