We need to stop arguing with them because, in the end, they aren't invested like we are. They aren't paying attention to these stories out of fear for their lives and the lives of their children and spouses, they are only tuned in out of black and brown contempt. This shit is trivial to them. It's all a pissing contest to see who can be the most smug and condescending - and ultimately dismissive. When we debate these issues, we do so passionately - albeit, not always very articulate and often without a whole lot of depth to our arguments - but we always come from a place of genuine frustration, outrage and fear. When most white people debate the very same issues from an opposing stance, they do so from a place of perpetual obtuseness and indifference and their arguments always pretty much boil down to "If it isn't my experience it couldn't possibly be yours."